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The main concern of every parent at the outset of a divorce is for their children. How will a divorce affect their children? Will their education suffer? Will they be emotionally damaged? Will the other parent stop me from seeing them? How will I support them? Being a parent is worrying enough, but when the two parents split, a whole new load of worries emerge.Unless one parent is abusive or violent and the other parent is seeking full custody in order to protect their children from possible harm, mediation is a much better process than the courts for divorcing parents.

 

It is important to full understand that divorce mediation is a cooperative process: parents work together to develop their final agreement, which includes provisions for parenting the children in all life areas. For many parents, mediation is the preferred approach to co-parenting and usually continues after the divorce is finalized. On the other hand, in litigated divorces, the parents can become adversaries, and therefore often assume adversarial parenting roles--thus putting the children "in the middle" of their parents' disagreements.

 

The second way that divorce mediation is preferable for children is that divorce mediation encourages you to be creative and flexible, so that you can devise parenting plans that meet your family's unique needs and circumstances. In contrast, litigation discourages cooperation and creativity, and gives the decision-making power to the attorneys and the courts.

 

The key to successful co-parenting is to separate the personal relationship from the co-parenting relationship. It may be helpful to start thinking of your relationship with your ex as a completely new one—one that is entirely about the well-being of your children, and not about either of you. Your marriage may be over, but your family is not; doing what is best for your kids is your most important priority. The first step to being a mature, responsible co-parent is to always put your children's needs ahead of your own.

 

 

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Coparenting Successfully

 

Successful Co-Parenting A Child's View

The Successful Co-Parenting program was created by Ohio State University Extension for parents going through divorce. It aims to teach parents how to co-parent together cooperatively for the benefit of their child. This video was created to use with the program to help show parents some of the feelings their child may be going through during this time.


child of divorce 

The Child of Divorce

"Dear Mom & Dad" was written by Monica Epperson, founder of The Child of Divorce. Monica experienced five divorces during her childhood and started The Child of Divorce to provide resources to children who are experiencing hurtful ramifications due to divorce.

 

 

 Split video

SPLIT

Amazing documentary that shows effects of divorce on children. This one of a kind documentary features 12 brave and wise kids speaking honestly and openly about how it feels when parents split.

 

 

 

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